Your body knows before you do - using body wisdom to support difficult conversations
For anyone with a conversation they have been putting off.
The Conversation That Went Wrong
Recently, I found myself hooked into a political argument at the pub. Someone expressed views I found distressing, and almost immediately, my awareness went out of the window. The sudden feeling of being unsafe had me holding my breath and feeling spaced out, before moving straight into fight preparation.
I have spent years in embodiment practice, working consciously with physical sensations and body awareness. I teach people how to re-regulate their autonomic nervous system, the network that manages our involuntary stress and survival responses, so they can communicate from a grounded place. Yet here I was, reacting with emotional impulsivity and waiting impatiently to speak, stuck in hyperarousal.
What Does a Somatic Coach Actually Do?
For anyone wondering what somatic coaching actually looks like in practice – and whether it could help.
The problem with niche titles
I have a confession to make: I sometimes dread the question ‘what do you do?’
When I tell people I am a somatic coach and practitioner, the title often sounds like a specialist niche that requires a ten-minute explanation. For many, ‘somatic’ sounds vaguely mystical, evoking images of crystal bowls or unstructured emotional catharsis. For others, ‘coaching’ suggests corporate performance optimisation, five-year plans, and relentless positivity.
My work sits in neither camp. It exists to address a practical, grounded reality: the challenges that bring people to coaching – things like exhaustion, chronic self-doubt, conflict avoidance, and career paralysis – need more than thinking and talking to be resolved. Intellectually understanding your patterns does not stop your body from reacting when the pressure mounts.